Own Your Life

I have been thinking a lot recently about how people achieve large scale success. I am talking Oprah.  Richard Branson.  Elon Musk.  Deep down I know they are no better than any of us.  But yet they have innovated a life that has defied all expectations. They are leaving a legacy that will last generations.  And it all started with the belief that they could.

Maye we truly are what we believe.

Let me tell you a personal story. When my dad died when I was 19 and my mom fell into grief and would lock herself in the bedroom for days at a time leaving my sister and I to fend for ourselves I thought I was alone. That NO ONE had been through what I was going though. How could I graduate from college and live my life when I had been through so much loss? How could I deserve to pull away from my family struggles in order to better myself? Guys, it was hard. I had to BELIEVE my life could be better. That I deserved to live my life even though it meant leaving the life I knew.

I want to tell you today – don’t let your past OWN you. Step in and own the full progress and trajectory of your life! You have no idea what your legacy will be. There is nothing that anyone who’s living on earth has ever felt or known or experienced on a soul level that hasn’t been felt or known or experienced by someone else.

One of the most difficult things in life is feeling that you are the only one. That you are the only one who’s traveled this path, who’s felt this way. But it is those people who rise above those feelings and know how to course correct, how to keep going and never quit.  They have faith in the bad and aim for the future.  They are the ones that change the trajectory of their life.

You can own your life. Till the day you die you are growing. You are creating. Don’t sell yourself short because of self-limiting thoughts. When you keep inputting positivity, there is no room for negativity.

Own your life.

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Sacred Mountain Essential Oil Blend

Last month I bought an oil blend I had never tried before – Young Living’s Sacred Mountain.  It is a blend of conifer essential oils that evoke feelings of strength, empowerment, grounding, and protection that are a result of being close to nature.  I have loved diffusing this oil and I can indeed feel a difference in clarity and mood since using it!  It smells so good!

It contains:

  • Spruce
  • ylang ylang
  • Balsam fir
  • cedarwood

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These 3 conifer oils have been traditionally used by the North American Indians symbolically to represent the umbrella they create in protecting the earth and bring energy in from the universe.

Ways to use this oil blend:

  1. Fear of failure/empowerment:  We are our own worst enemy.  Fear of failure oftentimes prevents us from moving forward.  Sacred Mountain can help empower you to take that first step.
  2. Public speaking/strength:  A very common fear and one that is not easily overcome.  Sacred Mountain can help you get the courage you need to take that stage with more confidence.
  3. Social situations/strength:  For me, social situations are scarier than any stage ever was!  Sacred Mountain (combined with Valor for an extra punch) help me overcome my fears and put myself out there more.
  4. Loss of a loved one/strength:  When a loved one passes, the whole family grieves.  Be the support your family needs while managing your own grief as well.
  5. Resisting temptations/empowerment:  What tempts you?  Sugar? Smoking? Gambling?  Sacred Mountain can shore up your defenses and allow you to strengthen your resolve.
  6. Controlling emotions/grounding:  You can’t always control how you feel, but you can control how your act on your feelings.  Using Sacred Mountain may prevent you from doing or saying something you’ll regret
  7. Dealing with conflict/empowerment: Conflict is never easy and never comfortable but sometimes it is very necessary.  Sacred Mountain can help you steel your resolve for that conversation no one wants to have.
  8. Self care/strength: If you are like most women, your needs are subservient to the needs of your family.  Sacred Mountain can give you the emotional strength to take care of yourself without feeling guilty.
  9. Leadership/empowerment:  Give your confidence the boost it needs to be a more effective leader.
  10. Asserting oneself/strength:  Sometimes letting others know that you are displeased is a very uncomfortable thing to do.   Let Sacred Mountain help you get the courage you need to speak up.

I would definitely recommend that everyone try this blend!

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Choosing Joy

Lately I have found myself in the why vortex. You know, where you question all the “wrongs” in your life. We all do it at some time or another. And I know from grieving the deaths of both of my parents that in order to move on you have to graduate from that vortex. Because in the end you either choose to be happy and celebrate what you do have or you will forever be stuck in that pit of “why.” I came across this quote yesterday and it hit me hard. I needed the reminder that I can choose joy. That joy is always an option.

Celebrate Life

See a few weeks ago I got to visit some friends from college in the city I moved to when I graduated – Philadelphia.  It has been 8 years since I had last been there.  It was so much fun seeing friends and eating delicious food (seriously Philly is a foodie heaven – I could spend DAYS eating my way through Reading Terminal Market.  I literally ate the biggest Pastrami Sandwich ever for breakfast and it was divine).  But what I didn’t anticipate was the flood of memories and emotions from my childhood.  I grew up in South Jersey.  We used to come to Philadelphia for this or that and honestly I think just being in such close geographical proximity to my childhood home opened in me a jar of emotions that I try to keep buried.  Regret that my parents are dead.  Pain that I missed my grandmothers funeral due to life circumstances.  Mad that life was not turning out how I wanted.  Painful memories I had buried for so long were fighting to come to the surface.  I stood on the lid and tried to hammer it back in but it wasn’t working too well.   And then I came home to a child sick with the stomach flu.  Talk about cortisol levels spiking!  I started to feel myself sinking into that pit of depression I fight so hard to stay out of.

So these past two weeks I have been consciously choosing joy.  Getting back into a rhythm of life that brings me happiness.  My essential oils help immensely of course.  Read here how they have helped my anxiety and depression the last two years.  In the end though it is mindset.  I am choosing to celebrate my life with all its dents and scratches.  We are all works in progress.

So choose joy today people. There is always something to celebrate.

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Essential Oils for Emotions

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Did you know that essential oils have the ability to directly access and affect the brain’s limbic region, the center of emotion and memory? Many oils can be used to create a positive emotional state, help soothe grief, create an environment of relaxation at the end of a long day, and much more. Sometimes a busy schedule and the demands of daily life can make it nearly impossible to relax.

Through diffusion, direct inhalation, and massage, Young Living products can become an affirming part of your day. Did you know that our sense of smell is estimated to be 10,000 times more acute than our other senses and sensitive to some 10,000 chemical compounds?  Once registered, scent travels faster to the brain than either sight or sound!

I discovered essential oils soon after my mom died in July of 2015. I was exhausted both mentally and physically and thought what the heck it can’t hurt to try them so I ordered a kit.  It was the best decision I ever made.  They have been amazing for me for multiple reasons but the most surprising one for me was the emotional support I got from using them! I have struggled with anxiety and depression on and off my whole life.   I now use a variety of essential oils everyday and have never felt better! They help with my sleep, and I am an all around happier person.  With an active toddler at home this has been a lifesaver!!

So how does this translate to you? It’s important to remember that our thoughts carry frequency.  When you apply an essential oil on your feet, it can saturate your cells within 60 seconds, stimulating creative thinking and pushing negative energy out, thus increasing the frequencies of the cells throughout the body. In that uplifted state, you can create a new desire to be better tomorrow. You have no limitations but those you choose to accept.

Gary Young likes to say that when you’re using the oils and you have something specific that you are working on, bring your intention, your intent, to it and tell the oils what you want them to do. If you’re looking to mend your broken heart or you’re looking for more energy or you’re looking to be in harmony with co-workers or a loved one just tell the oils what you want them to do and be open to the change that will happen.

How essential oils impact emotions

99% of life’s decisions are made from feelings. When our thoughts are limited by fears, lack of self-worth, and not feeling good enough for more or better, we make decisions that limit our success.  Therefore, if you want your life to be guided by good decisions that lead to health, happiness, and fulfillment, you need to be aware of and in control of your present feelings and to learn how to release the repressed emotions of the past.

Wheel of emotions

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See this picture of the 8 “basic human emotions” we all feel. Essential Oils play a powerful role in Emotional Healing.  We all hold unresolved feelings of pain and hurt which may need to be brought to the surface and let go.

Essential Oils can help your body release stagnant anger, sadness, grief, judgment and low self worth. Those feelings of low vibration cannot coexist with your new high frequency environment of balance and peace that the essential oils help create.

It is important to remember that Essential Oils do not do our emotional work for us. They simply assist in the process.  As feelings surface with the application of oils I would suggest that you use meditation and journaling along with prayer to facilitate the healing process.

Since I introduced essential oils into my life I feel more in control of the rollercoaster. The emotions don’t own me as much as I own THEM.  And that has been priceless for me and why I am so passionate about sharing them with all of you today.

Joy or Sadness

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I love diffusing Orange at work. It is a smell the fellow co-workers like and it helps keep me calm (er) when those e-mails start to pile up.  I wear Joy daily as a perfume – this oil has been immensely helpful in dealing with my depression over losing my parents and dealing with life in general. Joy contains rose oil, which has the highest frequency of any essential oil out there!  Some of the other blends listed in the photo below are Peace and Calming, which is amazing for children, And White Angelica , which is one so many people say helps them cope with life in general.

Trust or Disgust

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There are some great blends and oils listed here. Have you ever smelled an essential oil that you didn’t like?  When I first smelled Frankincense I swear I thought I was smelling a shoe. I am serious.  Everyone reacts different to the scent of an essential oil.  Most smell divine but some take some getting used to. But I had heard it took out wrinkles so I used it on my face anyway every night before bed.  I noticed after a week I felt calmer.  More grounded.  The smell grew on me and caught myself sniffing straight from the bottle.  And yes, it did help my wrinkles! The moral of this story is if you don’t like a smell of an oil it means you need it!

Fear or Anger

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There are some great oils listed here but I am going to concentrate on one specifically because it has literally changed my life. I am talking about Valor Essential Oil. The oils in this blend are Black Spruce, Camphor Wood, Blue Tansy, Frankincense, and Geranium.

It is the most popular blend Young Living sells.  It just came back in stock after almost 2 years of supply issues.  This oil blend changed my life in regards to managing my anxiety and helping me sleep. I rub a few drops into my feet before bed and I swear I hear my mind shutting down. I am so excited to be able to use this oil again!

The Feelings Collection

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What an amazing collection of oils for promoting all the good feels! If you don’t know where to start with the emotional oils Young Living sells, this is a great place to begin. You can use all of these oils alone but they work better together. The kit comes with instructions on how to use them and I will talk about them in detail over the next few posts.

Also this kit gives you a BIG price break over buying all these oils individually. So this reason alone is why I suggest you buy it if you are wanting a number of them. If you were to purchase all 6 bottles separately as a member it would cost $299! The feelings kit is only $175.75 which gives you over $123 in savings! AND you can purchase this on the essential rewards program, which gives you cash back on your purchases – up to 25%. Yes and thank you to saving money, can I get an amen?!? Have I told you how much I love Young Living?

Forgiveness

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Apply Forgiveness around the navel with the right hand going clockwise several times and think of situations where you need to forgive yourself or others. We beat up on ourselves, but everyone makes mistakes. Yet we struggle to forgive our own mistakes and those of others. This blend creates the frequency and the fragrance that stimulates the mind to move past the trauma or the problem. You do not need the other person to be present, because this is an inner adjustment on your part. Forgive that person or yourself and be thankful for the experience and the lesson it taught you. Inhale and apply Forgiveness while going through the process and repeat as often as necessary. How to use: Apply around navel and the heart, or wear as a perfume.

Harmony

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We need harmony in our life but sometimes it goes haywire. Sometimes we’re at dissonance with people, sometimes we don’t get along, sometimes we have different opinions and we’re really strong about ours.  I think Harmony helps us to maybe have a little more leeway when dealing with other people, and hopefully they’ll have a little more leeway with us so we can really understand and be with each other harmonically.

Inner Child

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When you are a child, all things are possible. There are no limitations. When you have found your inner child, you have found your true self. The child in you is your creativity. Often we are unable to progress to our highest potential because we are not connected to our identity. Many complications arise as a result of lost identity from the inner child. You can apply Inner Child on various points depending upon how you are directed: around the navel, over the heart, applied on the sternum, the throat, or behind the ears. I enjoy it on the temples.

Present Time

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How many of us forget to enjoy the moment?!? We all do too frequently.  When we live in the past or dwell on the future, we are not being productive in the present. Energize three drops of Present Time by making clockwise circles on the oil in the palm of your hand and then apply it to your thymus (the gland just under your sternum or breastbone). This will keep you focused on the tasks of today.

Release

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Negative energy goes into the blood and then to the liver, where the toxic feelings can remain trapped. Thus, the liver becomes a storage place for anger, resentment, bitterness, hatred, jealousy, envy, addictions, and a host of destructive feelings. Apply a drop of Release on your tongue to let go of poisonous stored emotions from the liver. Rub Release over the liver area.

Valor

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You should start with six drops of Valor on the soles of both feet at bedtime or whenever you decide to use this kit. I would also suggest Highest Potential along with the Valor. These two blends are effective to erase limited thinking. Valor balances and equalizes the body’s energies, thereby increasing oxygen intake to the pineal gland—the seat of our higher intelligence and intuitive faculties. You will wake up more self-assured and more alive to start the day.

Premium Starter Kit oils

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All these oils I have talked about are amazing, but the oils that come in the Young Living Starter Kit can also help your emotions! Lavender, Stress Away and Frankincense are all amazing to enhance your meditation or to end your day on a positive note.

Buy a starter kit

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If you have never purchased from Young Living before I encourage you to purchase through me. I always recommend you purchase the starter kit because you will start with the most popular oils and it gives you a membership with Young Living so you can reorder oils like the feelings kit at the cheapest price.

Go HERE to purchase.

If you have read this to the end Thank You! To get the benefits of oils just use them! Every day and throughout the day! I make rollers with them for portability; I have bottles by my bathroom sink and at my desk at work and a diffuser in multiple rooms of my home. I wear them, diffuse them and smell them throughout the day.  The more you use them, the more you will benefit.

I dare all of you to take the 30 day oil up challenge. Apply or diffuse essential oils twice a day for 30 days and you will be amazed at the difference you feel!

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My Journey with Depression and Anxiety

I have an overwhelming empathy for people who are suffering from depression and/or anxiety.  Whether it is the “winter blues” that come your way every season, a mild listless feeling you have that anchors over your spirit during certain periods, or a debilitating poison that eats away at your soul, I get it…. I’ve been there.

My struggle with depression and anxiety, severe at times, impacted my life in seemingly insurmountable ways.  I was embarrassed, frustrated, lonely, and didn’t understand why I just couldn’t “snap” out of it.

Anyone who has struggled with these things also knows there are ebbs and flows with it. I never wanted to take prescription meds for it because in my “mind” I wasn’t that bad. Looking back now, it was that bad at times. After years of this I turned to natural supplements plus lifestyle changes to heal myself. It worked. I feel 100 pounds lighter mentally. I have passion again. Purpose. I feel happy and at peace with myself. FINALLY.

Here is my story of what I went through and what worked for me. And what is continuing to work for me.

My situation

When I started having fertility issues seven years ago it was the nail in the coffin. As someone who already suffered from high anxiety and worry, it threw me into an internal tailspin that quickly turned into depression. Thoughts of worthlessness, internal conflict and loneliness clouded my days. I became obsessed with my situation and thought I was alone and no one understood how awful I felt and how helpless I felt. It affected my friendships. It affected my marriage. I started avoiding people. I woke up every morning exhausted from the restless sleep I had the night before.

And then my mom had a stroke. She needed help applying for disability, finding health insurance, getting on programs that would help her and sorting out her finances. It was hard and I struggled with the fear and responsibility I felt for her and her situation on top of my issues.

What was at the time just depression turned into an anxiety fueled debilitating illness. I developed severe insomnia to the point where I ended up taking prescription sleeping pills that reacted badly with me and made my depression worse. I felt alone, terrified of the future and clueless on how to proceed.

I knew I needed to do something. But as with a lot of depression sufferers, I lacked energy and the purpose to take action. After a few months of this I pushed myself and decided to join a gym. They had water aerobics classes and I thought exercise might help take my mind off of some things. What a blessing in disguise. The women in my class were  wonderful. So friendly, so easy going. They chipped away at the barriers I had put up for what I thought was protecting myself from more hurt. They got me to talk. About the infertility. About mom. About my fears, hopes and anxiety. I started healing.

I decided then to try and live healthier. I starting watching what I ate. Less sugar, more protein and vegetables. I took antioxidant supplements and drank whole food shakes (Love my Vitamix blender by the way-worth the investment). It helped. I started feeling hope again. This went on for a few months.

And then my husbands dad died. At our house. It was awful. Those first few months afterwards were bad. It left the whole family in a state of shock and wondering where do we go from here? My depression kicked back in.

Six months later my husband took a new job in Florida. When we moved I saw it as a new beginning. I was determined to find my joy again. I was blessed to be able to take my time to find a job that was actually in my field of study. I continued to exercise and started doing yoga and took meditation classes. I started acupuncture. And then as you have read in another of my posts, I got pregnant. That dear readers, was the best antidepressant money could  buy me. I know it is cliché, but Bryce truly has helped heal me. Children give your life instant purpose. Your life path suddenly becomes crystal clear. You are there to raise and guide your child in this crazy thing called life. He has brought me SO much joy.

This past summer was hard. My mom died suddenly in July. I could feel myself getting sucked down the path I have known too well. I was introduced to and purchased a Young Living starter kit at the end of July. People, these oils are helping me feel more grounded than I have in years. I can’t tell you why they are working. I do believe aromatherapy is a benefit. Scents have a very powerful effect on our emotions and mood.  And Essential Oils contain the concentrated beneficial compounds of the plants, seeds and organic matter they come from. All I know is that I have found a natural way to continue to control my anxiety and depression and I feel liberated. It is working for ME.

My Routine

In the beginning I began using the oils that came in my starter kit and honestly did not have any particular plan.  I just began diffusing different oils at different times, inhaled them directly and placed them on my body.  One of the best ways I found to use the oils is by diffusing them. I love that the Premium Starter Kit includes a diffuser. I love mine and use it everyday. It has been a huge blessing to my family. Below are the oils that are working for me.

Oils I Use

Joy

I honestly did not like the smell of this oil at first – it is very flowery – but I put a drop of this oil on my wrists and over my heart every morning before I walk out the door. It really calms and uplifts my spirit. I notice more bounce in my step in the morning and now I love the smell.

Peace and Calming

I diffuse this one quite a bit at night. It seems to help everyone in the household relax and for me helps quiet the mind. Plus, it helps put Bryce to sleep and that dear friends, is reason enough to use this oil. lol.

Stress Away

This oil is a favorite of many – I like the lime and vanilla scent – it really is different but so relaxing.  If things get a bit cranky for me, this goes in the diffuser and/or I apply it to the back of my neck.  (This oil comes in the premium starter kit). It really helps relax me. I have put this in a rollerball that makes this very convenient to apply.

Lavender

Oh Lavender, how I love you. It is called the swiss army knife of essential oils for a reason. You will find this diffused daily in my home.  If I am not sure what to diffuse, I go with Lavender.  It has such a calming fragrance and it just settles my mind.  I also have made myself a night-time roller bottle sleep blend and this is the main ingredient. This oil alone is making everyone in my family sleep better. This oil comes in the premium starter kit

Valor

I saved this for last for a reason. This oil has helped my anxiety the most. I put two drops on my feet before bed every night and instantly feel relaxed. More centered and happy. It is considered a grounding oil and I see why. It seems to melt away my anxiety. Since I have been using this oil, I feel renewed. More energy, more joy. Just more. I always have a bottle of this on hand. It is that good.

Your Journey

If you are in need of emotional support, please get help. Whether that is through therapy, medication, or natural supplements like Young Living. Do it. Life is too short and you deserve to be happy. I have been there. I know it is hard. But believe you can. You can and will get better.

Have hope.